Tuesday, 6 December 2016

Dr.David on The Principles - Willingness #essentialsofrecovery




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AROUND THE YEAR WITH EMMET FOX #essentialsofrecovery


WAITING UPON THE LORD

Read Psalm 27.


I had fainted, unless I had believed to see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.

Here, the Psalmist once more makes it clear to his own mind that his reliance is indeed entirely upon the divine Power, and not upon his own limited intellect, or will power.

Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord (Psalm 27:13-14).


The closing phrase is a powerful exhortation to be active and steadfast in prayer. To “wait upon the Lord” does not in the least mean neglecting a problem in the hope that God will come along and solve it for you. Waiting on the Lord means praying constantly and systematically about your problem. No particular form of prayer is essential, but prayer there must be; that is, the conscious dwelling upon the Being of God.

If your intuitive nature is well developed, you will seldom need to use formal statements. This is excellent—for who will trouble to climb a ladder when he is strong enough to leap over the wall? However, many people lose the ability to receive intuitional messages when worried or frightened. Then the ladder will probably be their salvation.

Nevertheless, it must not be overlooked that very many people do all their praying with formal statements of Truth, but not through repeating affirmations like a parrot. Those who work like a parrot inevitably make the parrot’s demonstration—they remain in the cage. Of a good prayer who used the same phrases many times it was said by a friend: “He constantly uses the old affirmations, but be stuffs them with fresh feeling every time.”

© 1931 by Emmet Fox
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DAILY REFLECTIONS #essentialsofrecovery

WHEN THE CHIPS ARE DOWN

When we developed still more, we discovered the best possible source of emotional stability to be God Himself. We found that dependence upon His perfect justice, forgiveness, and love was healthy, and that it would work where nothing else would. If we really depended upon God, we couldn’t very well play God to our fellows nor would we feel the urge wholly to rely on human protection and care.

~ TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 116 

It has been my experience that, when all human resources appear to have failed, there is always One who will never desert me. Moreover, He is always there to share my joy, to steer me down the right path, and to confide in when no one else will do. While my well-being and happiness can be added to, or diminished, by human efforts, only God can provide the loving nourishment upon which I depend for my daily spiritual health.

Copyright © 1990 by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services Inc 
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JUST FOR TODAY #essentialsofrecovery

Romance and Recovery

“Relationships can be a terribly painful area.”

~ Basic Text, p. 78 

Love is like an elixir for some of us. The excitement of a new lover, the intrigue of exploring intimacy, the sense of release we get from allowing ourselves to become vulnerable—these are all powerful emotions. But we can’t forget that we have only a daily reprieve from our addiction. Holding onto this daily reprieve must be the top priority in any recovering addict’s life.

We can become too involved in our relationship. We can neglect old friends and our sponsor in the process. Then, when things get difficult, we often feel that we can no longer reach out to those who helped us prior to our romantic involvement. This belief can lay the groundwork for a relapse. By consistently working our program and attending meetings, we ensure that we have a network of recovery, even when we’re deep in a romance.

Our desire to be romantically involved is natural. But we mustn’t forget that, without our program, even the healthiest relationship will not guard us against the strength of our addiction.

Just for today: In my desire for romance, I will not ignore my recovery.

© 1991 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services Inc

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TWENTY-FOUR HOURS A DAY #essentialsofrecovery


A.A. Thought for the Day

People who have had a slip are ashamed of themselves—sometimes so ashamed that they fear to go back to A A. They develop the old inferiority complex and tell themselves that they are no good, that they have let down their friends in AA., that they are hopeless, and that they can never make it. This state of mind is perhaps worse than it was originally. They have probably been somewhat weakened by their slip. But their A.A. training cannot ever be entirely lost. They always know they can go back if they want to. They know there is still God’s help for them if they will again ask for it. Do I believe that I can never entirely lose what I have learned in A.A?

Meditation for the Day

Nobody entirely escapes temptation. You must expect it and be ready for it when it comes. None of us is entirely safe. You must try to keep your defenses up by daily thought and prayer. That is why we have these daily meditations. You must be able to recognize temptation when it comes. The first step toward conquering temptation always is to see it clearly as temptation and not to harbor it in your mind. Dissociate yourself from it, put it out of your mind as soon as it appears. Do not think of excuses for yielding to it. Turn at once to the Higher Power for help.

Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may be prepared for whatever temptation may come to me. I pray that I may see it clearly and avoid it with the help of God.

© 1954, 1975, 1992 by Hazelden Foundation 
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AS BILL SEES IT #essentialsofrecovery



~ Page 80 ~

Debits and Credits

Following a gossip binge, we can well ask ourselves these questions: “Why did we say what we did? Were we only trying to be helpful and informative? Or were we not trying to feel superior by confessing the other fellow’s sins? Or, because of fear and dislike, were we not really aiming to damage him?”

This would be an honest attempt to examine ourselves, rather than the other fellow.

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Inventory-taking is not always done in red ink. It’s a poor day indeed when we haven’t done something right. As a matter of fact, the waking hours are usually well filled with things that are constructive. Good intentions, good thoughts, and good acts are there for us to see.

Even when we have tried hard and failed, we may chalk that up as one of the greatest credits of all.

~ 1. GRAPEVINE, AUGUST 1961 ~
~ 2. TWELVE AND TWELVE, P. 93 ~

© 1967 by Alcoholics Anonymous ® World Services, Inc 
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WALK IN DRY PLACES #essentialsofrecovery



ALCOHOLISM: DISEASE OR BAD HABIT?

Understanding My Problem

While AA has always considered alcoholism a disease, controversy still simmers over its definition. In the past, alcoholism has been considered a sin, a sickness, or just a very bad habit. More recently, there has been a suggestion that some “problem drinkers” might not be alcoholics at all and can very possibly bring their drinking under control.

This controversy will undoubtedly continue, but it is important that recovering people understand the nature of alcoholism. It is deadly, it is compulsive, and it is progressive. While there are occasional reports of alcoholics who claim to have become controlled drinkers, few of us have any firsthand evidence of such changes. Much more often, we hear the stories of alcoholics who try to drink again, only to find themselves headed down a rocky road.

It is not necessary that we define alcoholism perfectly or precisely. What’s more important is that we remember we’re powerless over alcohol and cannot safely pick up a drink. No definition will change that reality for an alcoholic who has had an unmanageable life.

I’m fortunate AA gave me an understanding of my problem that I can live with—one that will help me continue living. Others can worry about defining alcoholism. I’ll focus on staying sober myself.

© 1996 by Hazelden Foundation 
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KEEP IT SIMPLE #essentialsofrecovery



The strongest of all warriors are these two—Time and Patience.

~ Leo Tolstay ~

One of the first things we learn about in recovery is time. Before, we may have tried to control time by Pushing it along. We tried to hurry everything and everybody. We wanted our “quick fix.” But the program tells us to slow down. Easy Does It.

We probably couldn’t picture ourselves staying sober for the rest of our life. So we were told to just work at staying sober today. We learned to work our program One Day at a Time. We were thought that time can be our friend. Times is our Higher Power’s way of not having everything happen at once.

Prayer for the Day:

Higher Power, you are my teacher. You are in charge of the lesson. Help me accept this. Teach me how to use my time wisely.

Action for the Day:

Today, I’ll list five ways I use my time in ways that aren’t helpful to me. I’ll work at making time my friend.

Copyright © 1988 by Hazelden Foundation 
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FR. LEO'S DAILY MEDITATION #essentialsofrecovery


FAILURE

“There are two kinds off failures: those who thought and never did, and those who did and never thought.”

~ Laurence J. Peter ~

In my own life, I know I am guilty of both these failures. I remember making sandcastles in the air without realizing I could build one in my life. I would see somebody I wanted to talk with and imagine a conversation, rather than going over and risking possible rejection.

Today I am able to risk. I am now the possessor of a thousand memories that actually happened.

I am also aware of how thoughtless I was in my addiction. I would react rather than respond, creating hostility as a wall to keep people out. Today I am able to think through a problem and apologize when I am wrong.

God, help me accept the richness of life on life’s terms. 

© 2008 Leo Booth 
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A DAY AT A TIME #essentialsofrecovery

Reflection for the Day

When I finally convince myself to let go of a problem that’s been tearing me apart—when I take the action to set aside my will and let God handle the problem—my torment subsides immediately. If I continue to stay out of my own way, then solutions begin to unfold and reveal themselves. More and more, I’m coming to accept the limitations of my human understanding and power. More and more, I’m learning to let go and trust my Higher Power for the answers and the help. Do I keep in the forefront of my mind the fact that only God is all-wise and all-powerful?

Today I Pray

If I come across a stumbling-block, may I learn to step out of the way and let God remove it. May I realize my human limitations at problem-solving, since I can never begin to predict God’s solutions until I see them happening. May I know that whatever answer I come to, God may have a better one.

Today I Will Remember

God has a better answer. 

© 1989 by Hazelden Foundation 
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EASY DOES IT #essentialsofrecovery


SPIRITUAL

Spirituality is at the heart of the Twelve Step program of recovery. There is not A spiritual part of the Program. It IS a spiritual Program.

~ Jerry Dollard ~
A person who has had a spiritual experience does not wear that experience on their sleeve. What the Fellowship has discovered about the spirit has nothing to do with a “holier than thou” attitude. A spiritual person is surrounded by peace and tranquillity. They are busy with life, living each moment fully. They have an active concern with the well-being of other people.

A spiritual person may be surrounded by turmoil and still have serenity. The spiritual experience causes us to act differently. We are less concerned about ourselves. We know that we are well provided for. We are told to remember, “When we got to the place where there was nothing left but God, we found that God was enough.”

My spiritual growth has helped me, through my attitudes and actions, to better live with myself, my Higher Power, and others.

©1990 by Anonymous, Published by Hazelden
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A WOMAN’S SPIRIT #essentialsofrecovery


Some days I wonder how light can survive in a world with so much darkness. But most days I wonder how darkness can survive in a world with so much light.

~ Jill Clark 

Global events can be overwhelming. Nations of people are starving and at war. Earthquakes, hurricanes, rampant poverty know no bounds. We search for hope and wonder where it is. Those walking our path are learning that it resides within. Let’s be grateful.

Whether we see a situation as positive and for our good depends on our attitude. Life is as fulfilling and joyful as we decide to make it. Accepting whatever comes to us today in the spirit of gratitude will allow us to cultivate each experience for all it’s worth.

Just as surely as we can cultivate a bright outlook on a day’s events, we can work on a healthy perspective toward darkness. Why would we ever choose otherwise?

I don’t have to relish dark thoughts today. Remembering that God is in charge and all is well will let me see the light.

© 1994 by Hazelden Foundation 
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THE EYE OPENER #essentialsofrecovery


If you are satisfied with your progress in AA you are not only an exception, but you may be headed for trouble. Remember One Day at a Time, and Easy Does It. Before you measure your advancement, be sure you have an accurate yardstick. Nature is always slow in its development of good things.

Some weeds mature and bloom in a few days, but it takes Nature many centuries to perfect a diamond. Don’t worry about your rate of progress — you have a lifetime ahead of you — but just be sure that you progress.

Published by Hazelden
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Daily Tao / 340 – Context #essentialsofrecovery

Context. Connection. Engagement.
If we understand these words,
We do not need esoteric terms.



We can say that Tao is the context for everything, but we must go deeper than that.

All things are relative to their surroundings and to us. Strictly speaking, something that is one way to us will be another way to someone else. It might be very subtle, but there will be differences worth considering.

What do we do with this understanding? First, we have to reconsider that all things are connected. Although the angles of relationships shift and differ for each of us, we must be aware of the actual connections and even take advantage of them.

Secondly, we have to understand that relationships are transitory. We must have constant awareness to fit ourselves into the changing constellations of life.

Thirdly, we have to understand the value of our own point of view. Out of this mass of changing concordances, we must pick out the coordinates by which we act at any given moment.

We should take comfort in this situation. As long as we engage life fully, we need not fear being separated from the essential current of life.
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DAILY ZEN #essentialsofrecovery

A person of wisdom should be truthful, without arrogance, without deceit, not slanderous and not hateful. The wise person should go beyond the evil of greed and miserliness.

Do not get excited by what is old, do not be contented with what is new. Do not grieve for what is lost or be controlled by desire.

-Sutta-nipata, translated by H. Saddhatissa 
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Monday, 5 December 2016

Random Big Book Alcoholics Anonymous #essentialsofrecovery




In this connection, can you remain undisturbed if the man proceeds to tell you shocking things? He may, for example, reveal that he has padded his expense account or that he has planned to take your best customers away from you. In fact, he may say almost anything if he has accepted our solution which, as you know, demands rigorous honesty. Can you charge this off as you would a bad account and start fresh with him? If he owes you money you may wish to make terms. Chapter 10 – To Employers - p. 145